I’ve never talked to anyone. I’m used to handling things on my own. Do I really need to talk to a therapist?

If you are reading this, probably it would be a good idea. People who ask for help know when they need it and have the courage to reach out. In our work together, I’ll help you explore and identify your strengths and how to build on them to reduce the influence of the problems you are facing.

Do I have to come every week?

No. You can come when you need it, as you do with other professionals, like a doctor, lawyer, or tax accountant. Some people, however, do better with consistent, once or more per week sessions. If you want to learn something, like a new language or how to play a sport well, you will do better by getting together with your teacher at least once per week. That may also be true if you want to learn how to feel, think and behave differently.

What’s the difference between talking to you or my best friend or family?

A counselor or therapist can help you approach your situation in a new way– teach you new skills, gain different perspectives, listen to you without judgment or expectations, and help you listen to yourself. Furthermore, it is completely confidential.  Finally, if your situation provokes a great deal of negative emotion, and you  confide in friends and/or family members, you may burn them out and injure relationships.

Why shouldn’t I just take medication?

Medication can be effective, but it alone cannot solve all issues. Sometimes medication is needed in conjunction with counseling. Our work together is designed to explore and unpack the problems you are experiencing and expand on your strengths that can help you accomplish your personal goals.

How does it work? What do I have to do in sessions? How about between sessions?

Because each person has different issues and goals, it will be different depending on the individual. I tailor my therapeutic approach to your specific needs. What happens in session is important, but most modern therapists also discuss with their clients what they might do between sessions that would help. Some people call it “homework.” Others avoid the term because they have always hated “homework.” But if you want to do something new, doing things between sessions that you have decided to try often helps you move forward more quickly and effectively.

How long will it take?

Unfortunately, this is not possible to say. Everyone’s circumstances are unique. The length of time counseling takes to allow you to accomplish your goals depends on your desire for personal development, your commitment, and the factors that are driving you to seek counseling in the first place.

I want to get the most out of therapy. What can I do to help?

What you do — in session and between sessions — will help a lot. We will work collaboratively to figure out what works best for you going forward.

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